Stop Saying “Faith It Until You Make It’ Because It’s False Doctrine

Stop Saying “Faith It Until You Make It’ Because It’s False Doctrine

Raise your hand if you’ve heard the phrase, “faith it until you make it.” I’m betting you raised your hand because it’s an entirely all too common phrase amongst Christians. 

I’ve seen countless sermons, t-shirts, blog posts, etc. all encouraging Christians to just faith it until you make it and I’ll be incredibly honest, I have a huge problem with that for more reasons than I can count. But I’m going to try to tell you why this statement is false doctrine and why it’s time to ditch it from your list of advice. 

Before you leave, I get it. It sounds good.  I understand why we sometimes use this phrase. It’s better than “fake it until you make it,” right? Not really. Not in my world. The surface level concept seems great for many Christians because it implies we have faith. It says God has our six. The problem is that the faith is fleeting. The problem is that the faith only exists until you make it. 

Right now, my church, Gateway, is in the middle of a series called “True-ish” and we’re dispelling common phrases and ideologies that Christians hold but aren’t actually rooted in the Bible. Sunday’s sermon was about the idea that God will never give you more than you can handle, which is not true at all. We see people all over the Bible being given more than they can handle but there is always a purpose. Last week, it was about how many believe God helps those who help themselves which again, is false. We’re supposed to minister to those who cannot help themselves. Since we’ve been in this series, I’ve been thinking so much about this statement, “faith it until you make it,” and it’s been on my blog posts to write list (yes, I have one) for an entire year now. I look at this topic every single week and couldn’t figure out why it hasn’t been written until now. So let’s dive in. 

The word “you”

This is one part of this phrase I have a massive issue with. It says to faith it until you make it and in my opinion,  you didn’t make it. I don’t care how successful you are, you didn’t make it. God made it. God put you in the position you are in and can just as quickly take that away.

Job 1:21 says, “Naked I came from my mother’s womb and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” NIV

You are not the one responsible for being on the mountain. God gives and he can take.

The thing is we do not know God’s plan for our lives and the lives of those around us. As He is the one in control of the plan, it is irresponsible to assume we know better than God and have ourselves alone created success.

Continuing in Job 42:2-3, “I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted. / You asked, ‘Who is this that obscures my plans without knowledge? Surely. I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know.” NIV

Job is letting us know that God’s plans are far greater than we can see and to assume we know the plan is foolish.

In Psalm 10:4 it says, “in his pride, the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God.” NIV

This is the way I view that phrase. When we put the “you” as the forefront we forget about what God has done for us. I personally, don’t want to be counted among the wicked.

Isiah 26:3-4 says, “Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal. / He humbles those who dwell on high, he lays the lofty city low; he levels it to the ground and casts it down to dust.” NIV

When we place ourselves as the One on High, God humbles us whether we like it or not. We have no control over it. When we act as if we have created our success on our own, God reminds us who is in control. He is always the one calling the shots. He’s always the one determining what is part of the plan and what isn’t.  

The word “until” 

This goes back to what I said earlier about the faith being fleeting. 

I always think about the Israelites when I think about fleeting faith when they escaped slavery in Egypt. Their faith was ever fleeting. They doubted Moses and God more than they trusted. They murmured. They were unappreciative of the things given to them by the One who delivered them from bondage and slavery.

Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” NIV

Let me reiterate that. Faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. 

The definition of faith is being confident in the things we hope for and trusting God in what we cannot see. 

Y’all, we cannot see His plan so we need to have assurance in it. We need to have faith. 

Faith is not a fleeting moment. Faith is not something you decide to have when it’s convenient for you. You either trust His plan and have faith it in it always or your faith is conditional and you have faith until you’re on the mountain.

We see this time and time again in the scriptures. People are given a gift by God, they rise and live on top and begin to think it is them that got them there alone. Pride gets in their way and God brings them down to a valley. In that valley, they turn back toward to God. 

This isn’t to say we won’t have moments of doubt. 

They will come. They are natural. 

But it is up to us to not just have faith “until” but to nurture that faith. 

Romans 10:17 says, “Consequently., faith comes from hearing the message and the message is heard through the word about Christ.” NIV 

Faith comes by immersing ourselves continually. Even in moments of doubt. Even in moments of fear. 

David in Psalm 56:3-4 says, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. / In God, whose word I praise – in God I trust and am not afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” NIV 

If we can learn anything from David and Paul it’s that faith is not an until thing. It’s a process. It’s something we must work on daily. It’s something that must consume us. It’s something that isn’t going away anytime soon. 

Even in my moments of doubting churches, I never doubted God. I knew He had a plan for me and I’d end up where I was supposed to be. 

There is no making it

Hear me out. We can never really make it. Making it to me is perfection and that’s something we cannot achieve.

If we could, there would be no need for a Savior. We will always be striving to make it.

The phrase “faith it until you make it,” is used for temporal things but spiritually we’ve never made it.

We will always be striving to be more Christ-like and for that reason, we’ve never truly made it.

To put so much emphasis on the tangible is doing a disservice to God. There’s so much left to strive for.

 

Next time you’re struggling or someone you know is struggling, don’t tell them to “faith it until they make it”, simply tell them to have faith. Have trust. Know God loves you and has your back. Know that God has a plan for your life. Know that God is working through you, even in the valley. Know you’re never going through it alone. Know that you have a Savior who knows exactly what you are experiencing and He is there for you. He is there to fill in the gaps for when you are weak, He is strong.

My Fertility Struggle

My Fertility Struggle

I’ve talked about this a time or two before but never in this depth. I have major fertility struggles. 

Everyone who knows me, knows I love kids. I have volunteered my entire life to help kids in whatever capacity I can. My whole life I just knew I was going to be a mom. It’s just who I am. 

Throughout my college years, I had a few miscarriages but thought nothing of it really. I wasn’t ready to be a mom then and just assumed that because of my party girl lifestyle I was causing it. Never once did I consider that I had fertility problems. 

After I got married the first time in my early 20’s, we reached a point about a year in where we thought we’d like to have a baby. Knowing I had miscarried before, I became obsessive over ovulation. 

Well, I was 25 and so naturally I got pregnant right away. The positive test came on a Friday and by Tuesday I was miscarrying again. I was devastated. That’s when I decided I needed help. 

I took two very different approaches to solve the mystery. 

 

 

The Science Route

First, I called a doctor. I went to see a top Reproductive Endocrinologist and Infertility Specialist Dr. Barnhart was amazing. He got me in right away and spent hours with me. He ran blood tests, genetic tests, the freaking works. We waited until my next cycle came to town to do a Sonohysterogram. I won’t lie, it’s awful. When a male doctor says it’s going to feel like your worst menstrual cramps, know he has no clue and it’s worse. 

 

So what did Br. Barnhart find? Nothing. Minus a few 1 in a billion chance of my child having a genetic abnormality, there is nothing wrong with me. My uterus, and forgive the TMI, is textbook. His words, not mine. 

The Faith Route

At the time, I was a practicing member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As an LDS member, we had a few things coming up that I knew would offer some guidance. 

First, I could go get my patriarchal blessing. This is a once in a lifetime blessing you get and it offers some major life advice for you. They are deeply personal and private. Well each region has one patriarch so the wait time can be long. I called ours and he said “for some reason I need to see you this week,” and the appointment was set. 

Well my Patriarch said a lot of things that brought me comfort. Even now, as a non-member, I still find truth in that blessing. There was a lot in there. 

 

The Faith Route Continued

During that week, we also had our semi-annual General Conference where Church leaders share wisdom. I swear, if you go with a question, it will be answered. 

Well, my questions were naturally around fertility. 

That whole conference there were countless talks about being a parent and more specifically a mother. 

Women spoke about how much they struggled with fertility, how they had to adopt, resort to  medical professionals, 

 

I can honestly say I thank God for the miscarriages during that marriage. 

With this knowledge that there was nothing medically wrong with me and hearing from inspired leaders that fertility issues are okay and that God is still on your side, I pressed forward. 

Flash forward and it did not work out with my now ex-husband and I am forever thankful that we did not have a child in that marriage. I can honestly say I thank God for the miscarriages during that marriage.

Well, here we are in 2019 and I’m now married to a man I know is capable of fathering children. He, of course, knew about my fertility struggles before we tied the knot. When we had two faint positive tests this past month, I was elated. Maybe this time we would be okay. Maybe this time it would hold. 

For the first time in my life,  my partner was excited. He was grinning ear to ear. He was talking to our baby and telling them to be strong. We picked names. 

I thought, “maybe I can get excited this time. Maybe this is the time I don’t struggle.”

But a part of me knew to keep my guard up. Not get too excited. Wait another 5 ish weeks to get excited. Keep it from the kids. Keep it from the people in our lives. Just five more weeks and we can tell the world. 

This past Sunday, we were at Church together and a series was wrapping up. Sam, our Pastor, was speaking about Joseph from Genesis and how he lived his life knowing God was on his side. Through all of the struggles, he lived knowing God has his six. I thought to myself, “what a beautiful message. Am I living like God is on my side?” 

We left Church and I was feeling good about that sermon. We stopped by the store because the hubs wanted some soup and I needed a few more ingredients to make the soup he wanted. While there, I got this pain. A pain I knew too well. I looked at him and said, “I’m bleeding.” 

We got home and my worst fears were confirmed. Just four weeks away from being able to share with the world. Four weeks from peace. 

Crushed is an understatement. 

When you’ve miscarried as many times as I have,  it’s hard to have faith. But my ever faithful husband reminded me that God is on our side. 

Sometimes I get resentful. I won’t lie. Sometimes it’s hard to be excited when your friend is having a baby shower. Even harder when a friend tells you about their abortion. I want to be supportive but it’s hard. 

But we still have two beautiful little boys who call us Mama and Daddy. 

While miscarrying again is heartbreaking, I have to live knowing God is on my side through it all and that’s what keeps me sane. That’s what keeps me going. 

If you’re struggling with fertility, know you aren’t alone. Know that God has your back. It’s all part of a bigger plan we can’t see. While it may not make sense now, it may make sense later. Maybe we’ll never know why but He does. He knows why and that’s good enough for me. 

My Faith Box

My Faith Box

My Faith Box

Happiness Impact

The Happiness Impact

This week I was away, we’ll save that story for another blog post, but while I was away I got a notification of a super awesome box. My Faith Box had arrived! 

I was so excited since this was my first Faith Box and it surely did not disappoint. 

The theme of this month’s Faith Box was all about happiness. It honestly could not have come at a better time considering all that is happening in my life. 

Wait until you see everything this box has inside! Or better yet, grab your own below! 

Stickers!

If you look at my laptop it’s full of stickers. I have my Truffle stickers, Save the Fishies one and now my Jesus stickers. Call me crazy but I love showing my passions in life any form I can and stickers are a great way to express yourself. From the big picture above you can see that this Faith Box came with tons of stickers! I’ll be sticker-bombing everything this month! 

Devotionals

My Faith Box also came with an awesome devotional and this super cool Spiritual Practice guide. I’m excited to see how this transforms my life over the next few weeks. 

Embrace Your Journey
Devotional Cover

Local Artists

One of the best things to come out of the Faith Box was this magnet made by local artists in Haiti. I am all about supporting local artists and that’s what Anchored in Hope does. This is what their website says, “The mission of Anchored in Hope is to empower Haitian artisans to provide for their families with dignity. Our desire is to inspire hope for a better tomorrow through our reliance on the anchor that we have in Jesus Christ.” 

I love love love their mission! This magnet will serve as a great reminder for quite a few things for me.

1. Rely on the Savior. 

2. Rejoice in my knowledge of the Gospel

3. Support more local artists 

The Water Bottle

If you follow any of my social media or read any of my blog posts, you know how important reusable water bottles are to me. 

 

I am the biggest anti-single-use plastics person on the planet. There’s honestly no reason for it with the number of cute water bottles available. 

So the fact that Faith Box put a reusable bottle in here means it automatically got my vote of approval. 

Seriously, grab yourself a reusable bottle. Save the planet. 

Overall, I would say the Faith Box is totally worth it! I’m definitely excited to see how it changes my faith but I’m even more so impressed with the focus on changing the world in all aspects from supporting local artists to encouraging users to ditch the plastics. Faith Box has my vote. 

Working in Primary

Working in Primary

Last week I got a text from a member of the Bishopric asking me to meet. I’m new to the ward so I honestly assumed it was for a calling. I had been there a month and so it seemed like the right time. I was right.

Workng in Primary

Pray He is There

Speak He is Listening
You are His childHis love now surrounds you

I ended up in Primary. As the Chorister of all things. Y’all I have not done anything musically inclinced in 12 years. Yes, I did Honor’s Choir back in Elementary School (yes, I got picked for that) but I haven’t done much since minus the Middle School and 1 year of High School Choir. So to say I’m rusty is an understatement and a half.

How was I going to teach music. I can’t even conduct and my ability to hear the songs and know when to start signing is lackluster at best. I immediately thought to myself, “well the kids won’t care but the adults in the room are going to know I’m an idiot.”

So basically it was pure panic.

Then I was set-apart and it changed everything.

The Bishopric reminded me how vital my job was. Primary is the super fun place in Church. You’re also working with future missionaries. Future parents. The next generation of active adults. The experience they have in Primary can shape how they feel about Church. I hear from adults all the time that a Primary lesson stuck with them. A Primary teacher. A Primary song. Those moments in Primary helped them through the tough times.

Primary used to feel like being banished. Minimal adult conversation. People tend to forget you exist when you land in Primary. But after meeting my Bishopric, I learned that Primary is one of the most important callings I’ve ever been given. I’ve served in Primary before but never had this actualization before.

I needed Primary as much as God needed me there for the children. I am forever thankful that God places us where we need to be.

A Child's Prayer

This is without a doubt my favorite Primary song. God will always answer your prayers. We are all part of his Primary.

Bible Study

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Watermelon Feta Salad

Watermelon Feta Salad

My favorite salad recipe

As y’all know I don’t eat meat for biblical reasons. The scriptures say to eat meat sparingly so unless someone makes me something with meat, I avoid it. I digress.

Since I don’t eat meat, salad is something I frequent. Living in Georgia, it’s pretty hot all the time. When I moved here the temp in NJ was 40 and when I arrived it was 96. in Georgia. A nice, cool summer salad is the thing I needed.

Typically I get pretty sick of salads fast but this one is perfection. It’s got all of my favorite things in it and it’s incredibly light. To say I eat this every single day would be an understatement. Lunch or dinner for the past three weeks you can find this salad in my hand.

Mix it up with your favorite berries but I will say the feta, watermelon & basil combo is to die for!

I honestly just eyeball everything. I stick as much watermelon, berries, feta, basil, etc. in as I want that day. Have fun and let me know how you mix this recipe up!

 

 

Watermelon Feta Salad

Watermelon Feta Salad

Ingredients

  • Watermelon
  • Blackberries
  • Raspberries
  • Spring Mix
  • Walnuts
  • Basil
  • Feta Crumbles
  • Balsamic
  • Olive Oil
  • Brown Sugar

Instructions

  • 1:3 Ratio of Balsamic to Olive Oil
  • Add a pinch of brown sugar and whisk
  • Take a bowl of Spring Mix and add your other ingredients based on your own love of berries, feta and basil.
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Needing Directions?

Following Directions

Are you doing it alone?

Do you prefer to go at it alone?

If you’ve been following along on social media, you’ll see I moved recently. From PA, then back home to NJ and then finally over to GA. I came here all alone. Indepedent woman and all. I came here with no furniture. Not even a bed. I had to buy everything down here.

Perfect right? Well yes! I got to design my house the way I wanted. Expect some photos soon!

So I move to Georgia. I get everything delivered and I start to assemble.

My bed comes with directions, numbers and screws. Me feeling all indepdent decides, I just need to line the numbers up and screw the things in. I didn’t need the direction. That was my thought.

Fact: I did need the directions. Things were wonky when I went at it alone. There was no way I’d be able to sleep on that bedframe.

When I caved and turned to the direction, things made sense. Guess what? My bed is stable. Things are good. My room is together.

So is this a blog post about putting my bed together? Well, yes and no.

I had the directions the entire time when assembling my bed. Just like we always have the directions for life available. We have the scriptures readily available to us. We have the choice to pray about things in our lives aka direct communication with God. Every single day we have the choice to study the scriptures and to pray. Those two activities help provide the directions we need for our own lives. Rather than feeling unstable and unsure, like I did when I was building my bed alone, when I reached for the directions, I felt safe, secure and empowered. The scriptures and prayer can do the same thing for you. You can decide to feel stressed or you can decide to following the directions and guidance laid out for you. Which will you decide? 

The Power of Scriptures

A talk from LDS General Conference October 2011 on the power of scriptures.

Scripture Study Tips

1. Make a commitment

This maybe sounds crazy but make a time commitment. Decide when you’ll read, listen & study your scriptures.  

2. Ditch distraction

Put your phone down for the next 5-10 minutes. Those 5-10 minutes will make all the difference. Have children? Spend some quiet time alone before they wake up. You got this!

3. Write it down

One of the greatest gifts we have from God is being able to receive personal relevation. When we pray and study the scriptures, pay attention to the feelings you get while reading. Write those impressions down. You’ll be thankful for those written down impressions later on. 

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