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365 ways to love your husband in 2020

This seemed like such an easy topic to write about as we approach 2020 and Glenn and I just celebrated our first year as Mr. & Mrs. I wanted to share something we can do each day, as Godly wives, to let our husband know we love him. As we act in service, I hope it draws you closer to God and your husband. I cannot wait to see how this year turns out for you and your spouse. Here are 365 ways to love your husband in 2020. Most importantly here are a ton of ways to love your husband biblically in 2020! 

  • Pray for him 
  • Say “I love you” more 
  • Ask about his day with real intentionality 
  • Hold hands in the car 
  • Leave a love note in his lunch 
  • Pack his lunch for work 
  • Make his favorite dish for dinner 
  • Plan a date 
  • Greet him with a smile when he comes home 
  • Make eye contact 
  • Take a task off his “honey do” list and do it for him
  • Schedule appointments for him 
  • Tackle the budget with him 
  • Get his favorite snacks from the store 
  • Clear his dishes after dinner 
  • Don’t mention that “sweet spot” between the closet and hamper and just put his clothes in the hamper 
  • Make your home a haven 
  • Go to bed at the same time 
  • Hug daily
  • Wake him up with coffee 
  • Give him a full hobby day 
  • Buy him a book you know he’ll love 
  • Call him just to say, “I love you” 
  • Share a secret 
  • Send him out with the boys 
  • Leave a love note in his pocket 
  • Take the trash out 
  • Find out his love language 
  • Tidy up your room 
  • Let him know how much you love him via text 
  • Text him during the day how attractive you find him 
  • Compliment him in front of others 
  • Write him a song 
  • Volunteer at church together 
  • Join him in the shower 
  • A massage 
  • Kiss him in front of the kids (they need to see a healthy marriage)
  • Ask him what he needs to feel valued and loved
  • Do his laundry (and actually put it away when it comes out of the dryer)
  • Let him sleep in on a Saturday 
  • Get him a gift he wouldn’t normally spend money on for himself 
  • Grab his butt when he’s walking by
  • Ask him how you can pray for him 
  • Give him some time to unwind after work 
  • Go dancing 
  • Make a bucket list 
  • Mixtapes aka new playlists never go out of style 
  • Set your goals together 
  • Go to a Bible study together 
  • Make God the center of your marriage 
  • Ask about his top priorities 
  • Plan a day trip
  • Go see his favorite movie 
  • Play a board game together
  • Sign them up for a class they’ve been wanting to take 
  • Schedule in a regular date night (weekly or monthly) 
  • Give your hubs a list of the things you love about him 
  • Take over their least favorite chore 
  • Surprise them with a gift on one of those weirder holidays (I’m looking at you International Bacon Day)
  • Send an email mid-day to see how their day is going 
  • Don’t talk to your friends and family about disagreements 
  • Always build him up in front of others 
  • Stop shutting down 
  • Stop saying you’re fine when you’re not 
  • Ask his opinion frequently 
  • Respect him as head of the household 
  • Be trustworthy 
  • Get creative with how you express your love
  • Be a servant leader 
  • Practice more patience 
  • Skip the condescension 
  • Take his small problems seriously 
  • Be interested in his life 
  • Make him feel like a man
  • Set a good example for the kids 
  • Seek his counsel 
  • Follow Biblical advice for your relationship 
  • Create a Biblical outlook for your marriage 
  • Protect his dignity 
  • Put your phone down
  • Ask him to teach you a hobby of his 
  • Say “i’m sorry” first 
  • Put his towel in the dryer for when he gets out of the shower 
  • Fluff his pillow 
  • Ask him to study the scriptures with you 
  • Do your hair the way he likes it 
  • Make his favorite dessert 
  • Wear his favorite outfit 
  • Let go of the minor annoyances 
  • Commit to being more intimate together more often
  • Look at old photos 
  • Go for a walk together 
  • Make dinner together 
  • Hit a concert or local band event 
  • Learn something new together 
  • Compliment him to your friends
  • Use a kind voice 
  • Staycation 
  • Leave a love note on the bathroom mirror 
  • Date night at home 
  • Wash his car 
  • Vacuum the inside of his car 
  • Get up early to make breakfast 
  • Fill the gas tank 
  • Warm his car in the morning 
  • Dish some compliments to him 
  • Allow him to express himself freely to you 
  • Don’t focus on features of other men 
  • Be aware of his needs and remain sensitive to them 
  • Create a special time and activity for you to do  as a whole family 
  • Attend a marriage seminar together 
  • Don’t ignore the small things that bother him
365 ways to love your husband in 2020
  • Take extra care when he’s sick 
  • Give him attention over others 
  • Brag about him to others 
  • Don’t compare him to others 
  • Reamin supportive 
  • Help him reach a goal he has 
  • Run errands complaint free 
  • Maintain good grooming habits 
  • Support him in front of the kids 
  • Do things that make him feel cherished as your husband 
  • Let him pick the dinner menu for the week 
  • Pick him up a treat when you’re out 
  • Ask his advice & don’t challenge it 
  • Rub his feet 
  • Iron his shirts 
  • Replace something he needs like beard balm
  • Call him if you’re running late
  • Take a task off his “honey do” list and do it for him
  • Schedule appointments for him 
  • Tackle the budget with him 
  • Get his favorite snacks from the store 
  • Clear his dishes after dinner 
  • Don’t mention that “sweet spot” between the closet and hamper and just put his clothes in the hamper 
  • Make your home a haven 
  • Go to bed at the same time 
  • Watch the sunset 
  • Have a photoshoot
  • Listen without interrupting 
  • Don’t multi-task when talking to them 
  • Operate in humility 
  • Express gratitude 
  • Take the dog for a walk 
  • Compliment a project they’ve been working on 
  • Mail a letter of appreciation to them (nice to get something in the mail other than a bill!) 
  • Consider his feelings when you’re about to have a disagreement 
  • Don’t make sudden changes without talking to him 
  • Tell him you like him as person 
  • Tell him what you like about him 
  • Focus on what he’s doing right 
  • Keep date night, date night. Leave the kid talk and problems at home 
  • Don’t allow others to disrespect him 
  • Compliment him to the kids 
  • Look at dream homes together
  • Cuddle on the couch 
  • Exercise together 
  • Don’t ask him to perform things that aren’t within his natural abilities 
  • Push him lovingly 
  • Respect his ambition 
  • Make the first hour he’s home positive before diving into anything negative 
  • Send him to work with coffee 
  • Have his clothes ready to go for work
  • Recreate your first date 
  • Make foreplay a priority
  • Say thank you more 
  • Have a kid free vacation 
  • Ask more questions to know him better 
  • Tech free day 
  • Couples massage 
  • Plan the next 5-10 years together 
  • Double date 
  • Go stargaze
  • Visit your hometowns 
  • Binge a new series 
  • Movie marathon 
  •  Be praiseworthy  
  • Avoid petty fights 
  • Let him fail so he can learn something new 
  • Create family goals
  • Allow him to fail without fear of judgement 
  • Tell him how proud of him you are 
  • Follow his spiritual lead but don’t be afraid to help him grow 
  • Notice the things he does for the family 
  • Ditch habits that annoy him 
  • Find out what makes him insecure 
  • Get creative in how you tell him you love him 
  • Don’t overcommit yourself so you have time for him 
  • Admit your mistakes 
  • Let him know he’s needed 
  • Acknowledge him when he does something for you or the family 
  • Help him be the spiritual head of the household 
  • Thank him for being him
  • Be his biggest cheerleader 
  • don’t disagree in front of the kids 
  • Hide some notes around the house for him to find 
  • The silent treatment has to go 
  • Make food from scratch 
  • Learn a new recipe that he would like 
  • Choose your words carefully 
  • Tell him you love him more often 
  • Value what makes him unique
  • Chivalry isn’t dead
  • Make him a card & tell him how you feel 
  • Ask questions about his hobbies 
  • Frame old photos of y’all 
  • Love yourself! Confidence is sexy 
  • Tell your kids what you love about Dad 
  • Acknowledge the ways you can be a better help-mate 
  • Have the children’s homework done before he gets home 
  • Plan a family movie night 
  • Find mutual friends 
  • Put your marriage directly after your relationship with God (that means before work,  friends, Church, etc.) 
  • Refuse to work late consistently 
  • Encourage him constantly 
  • Compliment the way he handles a difficult situation
  • Thank him for taking good care of you 
  • Pray for him/with him when he’s stressed 
  • Talk to him not at him 
  • Take interest in his friends 
  • Laugh together 
  • Take him to breakfast 
  • Give him grace 
  • Thank God for him by name when praying 
  • Keep things to yourself – your friends don’t need to know everything 
  • Clean his car & fill his gas tank 
  • Make a “honey do” list with fun stuff to do together 
  • Let him catch you admiring him  
  • Ask him how he likes certain things done around the house
  • Always be a united front to the kids, friends, etc. 
  • Trust him with the finances 
  • Making the family a priority 
  • Run his shower for him 
  • Make faith a priority in your home 
  • Communicate with him with respect 
  • Tell him about what you find important 
  • Tell him what caught your eye about him when y’all first met 
  • Get him a sneaky gift card to his favorite restaurant and put it in his wallet 
  • Don’t go to bed angry 
  • Submit as the Church submits to Jesus
  • Drop a love note in his work pants or briefcase 
  • Ditch the “I told you so” attitude and phrase 
  • Hang out while he watches TV – I promise eventually you’ll love Live PD 
  • Initiate marital relations 
  • Let him have a relaxing day at home on his day off instead of assigning tasks around the house 
  • Skip some of the details in your story and get straight to the point (unless he loves little details) 
  • Don’t argue over word choice 
  • Give him the benefit of the doubt
  • Be kinder to him than you are to strangers 
  • Don’t ask for praise or credit when you do things for him 
  • Never insult his intelligence 
  • Enjoy an activity together without talking – some men prefer to be and not talk 
  • Keep conversations short after work – he’s tired 
  • Don’t nag him about things 
365 ways to love your husband
  • Set realistic expectations 
  • Make your husband priority number one over the kids 
  • Give him space in his own home 
  • Ditch the sweatpants when he’s home 
  • Smile more 
  • Let him pack the car for road trips, vacations, etc. 
  • Let him drive 
  • Ask if he needs anything from the store 
  • Respond to him with enthusiasm 
  • Don’t compare him to other men 
  • Grab a record of his favorite artist
  • Ask about how you can pray for his career
  • Honor the man he is becoming 
  • Ditch the “I told you so” attitude and phrase 
  • Hang out while he watches TV – I promise eventually you’ll love Live PD 
  • Initiate marital relations 
  • Let him have a relaxing day at home on his day off instead of assigning tasks around the house 
  • Skip some of the details in your story and get straight to the point (unless he loves little details) 
  • Don’t argue over word choice 
  • Respect his things 
  • Let him open his own mail unless he specifies otherwise 
  • Give him ample warning about family activities and planned events 
  • Have a mid-day lunch when he’s working 
  • Get up either when he does or before he does 
  • Meet his co-workers and speak kindly of them and him in front of them
  • Don’t do anything to embarrass him 
  • Give him patience
  • Love him unconditionally 
  • Love him sacrificially 
  • Love him actively 
  • Be intentional 
  • Be available 
  • Spice it up in the bedroom 
  • Flirt with him 
  • Avoid being critical 
  • Accommodate differences 
  • Set up boundaries so you can have a healthy relationship
  • Meet with your Pastor to strengthen your relationship 
  • Toast to him at a dinner party
  • Leave a love note in sidewalk chalk 
  • Educate yourself on how to be a kick-butt wife
  • Kiss him often 
  • Remind him how handsome he is 
  • Give your spouse your best 
  • Don’t be afraid to admit when you’re not your best 
  • Ask for his help when you need it 
  • Tidy the house before he walks through the door 
  • Ask him what he wants to do 
  • Offer self-control when talking to him 
  • Ask for his forgiveness 
  • Ask him what he needs in a wife 
  • Trust God more 
  • Spend money wisely 
  • Choose love always 
  • Hold him 
  • Commend him for becoming more Christ-like in something he’s been working on 
  • Ask about his dreams 
  • Tell him what you love about his bedroom prowess 
  • Ask God to reveal how incredible your husband truly is 
  • Have your children express why they love him 
  • Ask about what he wants to do when y’all retire 
  • Buy him something he can use in his hobby or passion project 
  • Celebrate every accomplishment big or small 
  • Prep dinner for him on nights you won’t be home for dinner so he can easily have your home cooking 
  • Leave encouragement in scripture form in his pockets, lunch, etc. 
  • Be his friend 
  • Don’t assume he can read your mind 
  • Think before you act 
  • Be his wife not the Holy Ghost 
  • Pray before addressing anything negative 
  • Don’t take him for granted 
  • Go camping 
  • Stay in bed all day together 
  • Road trip 
  • Slow dance often 
  • Visit a B&B 
  • A read book together
  • Think about the thing that annoys you most about him & let it go
  • Volunteer together 
  • Create a new tradition
  • Preserve your dignity 
  • Take care of your home
  • Don’t be a lazy wife
  • Honor the man he is becoming 
  • Don’t allow friends to have influence over your relationship 
  • Give him the benefit of the doubt
  • Be kinder to him than you are to strangers 
  • Don’t ask for praise or credit when you do things for him 
  • Never insult his intelligence 
  • Enjoy an activity together without talking – some men prefer to be and not talk 
  • Keep conversations short after work – he’s tired 
  • Don’t nag him about things 
365 ways to love your husband
  • Do something to help him de-stress daily 
  • Help him shop for new clothes 
  • Tell him what makes him a great husband and father 
  • Serve him breakfast in bed 
  • Coffee in bed goes a long way 
  • Do things without mentioning it
  • Be quick to respond when he needs help 
  • Light some candles before he gets home 
  • Be a blessing
  • Call in dinner for him when he’s working late
  • Let him get a nap in (take the kids out of the house if need be) 
  • Be sincere 
  • Leave no dishes in the sink so you can wake up to a clean kitchen 
  • Give the kids an early bedtime so you can get more alone time on the weekdays 
  • Remind him he’s worth it
  • Snuggle under a blanket together 
  • Scavenger hunt date night 
  • Add some lavender to the sheets so he can get a good night’s sleep 
  • Show him you’re really in this together 
  • Text less and call him more (that doesn’t mean call him all day at work) 
  • Lay in bed and talk at night 

365. Treat him like he’s your best friend because he is

Y’all I am not perfect at a single thing on this list but I’m trying and I’ll keep trying until the day I die because my husband deserves my best always. 

One thing I’m doing to draw closer to him and Him is a 30 day prayer challenge to be a better wife to Glenn. You can join us for free if you’re ready to be a “Wife After God.”  I’d love to have you with us! It’s totally free and we kick off in 2 weeks! I’ll see you there! 

P.S. Leave a comment below & tell me how you love your spouse or what area you’re excited to work on! 

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  1. I love my spouse because he is always willing to go above and beyond for me. He goes the extra mile just to put a smile on my face:)

    1. I love that! It’s really in these simple but thoughtful ways that marriages last. What do you do for him to ensure he’s got a smile too? 🙂

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