As a Biblical Womanhood Mentor, I get asked on a regular basis, “how can I make my time with God, quiet and a priority when I don’t even have time to shower?”
My answer is always to make it non-negotiable. You have to decide that God is more important than watching Netflix. He is more important than a perfectly cleaned home (even though that’s important).
I often think about 2 Kings 5 when I give this advice. A quick recap:
Naaman had leprosy and Elisha came to him. He offered simple instructions that said to go and wash in the Jordan River and he would be healed. That’s all. Naaman was angry. He expects Elisha to come and wave his hands around and say things in the name of God. He was expecting Elisha to give him a mighty task. His servants reminded him that he was willing to do big things but struggled with the simple things.
Often we are looking for a grand gesture. We tell God we are here and ready for the big stuff when we aren’t really managing the small stuff.
If you’ve ever read a single post I’ve written, you’ll know that my focus is on God. I look to the scriptures to inform our lives. If we have had a true conversion in our hearts we should be actively seeking God’s truth to guide us.
Ask yourself is time with God more important than work?
Is it more important than my husband? My kids?
I’m sure you wanted to say yes to those. “Ashley of course God is more important than those other things,” but the truth is, we don’t always act like it.
We say that work provides for my family so it has to be top billing. We say that work takes over so our time with our husband and children is already less than I desire so I have to give them my attention.
Which makes sense. You have to feed your family. You must actively work on those relationships or they’ll fail.
But isn’t that true than with God? Sure, God will wait for us to come around but we have to be actively working toward growing that relationship in order for it to blossom. We can’t pray once a week or grab the scriptures once a month and expect a thriving relationship with God.
Here are my top 3 tips for making your relationship with God a top priority.
You have to decide God is most important. This sounds crazy maybe but God is more important than your spouse and children. When you were baptized, you entered into a new relationship with your Creator. We don’t say maybe I’ll try with my husband or kids. We just do it.
Your relationship with God has to be the same way. There’s no try here. There’s no maybe. You can either be in an active relationship with God or you aren’t.
Decide now that you want that relationship and really decide. Once you make a decision, we can move on to tip 2.
Realize you need to sacrifice
If God can sacrifice His only Begotten Son for you personally, you can make sacrifices for him.
If your problem for making time with God is that your schedule is packed, something has to go. Maybe that means sacrificing 20 minutes of sleep in the morning. Maybe it means not checking on work right in the morning. Maybe it means skipping the dishes tonight and having someone else do them. Maybe it’s takeout for dinner.
Whatever is blocking you from forming a deep and meaningful relationship with God, reallocate that time.
Making time with God requires some sacrifice but I promise, it won’t feel like one soon.
Make this family time
If you’re a busy mama like I am, sometimes we need to combine activities. For us, that means constantly combing our family with God. We read scriptures together, plan biblical activities, watch sermons together, and spend a lot of time watching PureFlix (seriously the best movies).
I do believe that building your own relationship alone with God is important but sometimes we get our time in with God with our family and that’s okay too. It doesn’t have to be perfect. We just need to make God a priority each and every day.
No matter how busy you are, making time for God is crucial because when we are in a relationship with Him we can see Him working in our lives. By sacrificing something temporal, we are gaining something spiritual. Always the better option.
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- Putting the focus on God instead of the self
- Bearing each other’s burdens at home
- Yes, God calls women to be homemakers