Ready to make homemaking your ministry?
When I say homemaking can be use as your ministry, a lot of people think I’m nuts. When we think about ministry, typically the last place our mind goes is homemaking but the truth is, homemaking is one of the most important ministries you’ll ever be involved in.
I remember back in my Mormon days, I had a Patriarchal Blessing. It’s something you get once in your whole life and what mine said really resonated with me. In mine, it discusses my role as a wife and mother.
I won’t quote it because it’s something special and unique to me but it does say something along the lines of my greatest work will be in the walls of my own home. My children and your children are the greatest gift we can get from our Father. He trusts us to raise a family and be a part of the greater plan.
Too often we neglect our families in order to serve in other ministry callings and while those callings are noble, it’s not the most important one women are called to serve in. All too often our families get what’s left of us not what is our best. I know that sounds harsh but how often do we bust our bum for other pursuits and then our family gets the cranky, tired, not fun woman?
Ministry at home can make all the difference. If we approach everything with an attitude of service and can see the big picture, we can fully embrace and love our God-given calling.
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Things of this world don’t last
Remember those fancy degrees? They don’t really mean much in the grand scheme of things unless I use them to serve God. Each of my degrees help me serve others and help me serve my family.
Spending my time on things that are fleeting don’t make much sense. As we’ve seen with the economic impact right, your degrees don’t mean much. Corporate America (or wherever you’re reading this) isn’t entirely stable. I’ve had. so many friends leave VP jobs, C-Suite jobs, etc. because their company was restructuring and they weren’t necessary anymore.
You know where I’ll always be necessary? My family.
2 Corinthians 4:18 says to focus on the things that are eternal. Not the things of this world.
My family and building up God’s Kingdom is something I can focus on because it’s eternal. Worrying about a corporate job will fade. It will never bring you ultimate satisfaction. It will never last.
You may find temporary happiness but nothing of this world lasts forever.
If I am figuring out where to spend my time, I’ll always pick the family God gave me to serve.
while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are Eternal
2 Corinthians 4:18
Serve with hospitality
I mentioned this earlier but serving in various areas is amazing. There are so many people who need the skills, talents, etc. God has given to us. I for one love serving others. It brings me so much joy and it’s a blessing to teach our kids to serve. My husband also serves in our church and so our kids tag along for a lot of our duties. It’s important to teach our kids to serve.
While we find so much joy in serving others, we must find the same joy in serving our family. Our family may get leftovers for dinner some nights but they shouldn’t get my leftovers. They deserve a wife and mother who serves with hospitality. God gave me and you a family.
How can we look at that family each day knowing everyone else gets the best of us and they get what remains? How can we look at them with disdain when we take care of them? How can we find no joy in taking care of the people God gave us?
If we practice biblical hospitality with strangers, we can do it for our loved ones.
It’s honestly a lot of work
We have two kiddos at home. My boys are only 20 months apart and our oldest has ASD. We homeschool. My husband’s job is unpredictable with his schedule. Serving my family takes a lot of work.
There have been times when I said yes to everything because I tried so hard to serve everyone. I was underestimating how much work is required to run a household successful. I am by no means saying I have it all figured out but I do think we’re not totally failing here.
You see the thing is you and I are not raising kids. I know it seems like we are, but we aren’t.
We’re preparing the gifts God has given us to be fully functioning adults who are going to serve in God’s Kingdom. These adults are going to have a family of their own someday. They’ll be responsible for bringing children up in the Gospel.
Call me crazy but that’s a lot of pressure. I mean we are called to do some amazing things in this life and one of those things is to serve our family. There’s a lot that goes into serving our family and it truly can be exhausting to do that job well.
Having a ton of time for other ministry work is hard. Especially in this season of life. It’s hard to give it everything we’ve got to something else when our attention is on the family.
It doesn’t have to be 24/7 on the family but with my boys being so small, I have to give them everything.
If I’m busy running around doing 24 other things, how can I show up fully for my family? The truth is we can’t. We can’t be in hundreds of places at once but we can prioritize what’s important so we don’t burn ourselves out.
I truly believe we can have it all. We just have to shift our thinking. We have to work on balance. We have to look at our role as a wife and mother as a ministry opportunity instead of a burden. I promise you the “patriarchy” didn’t push you here and I know the modern “feminists” will look down on you but at the end of the day all that matters is that your home is a sanctuary full of love and you’re giving your very best to the family.
How can we expect our family to give us their best if we view everything we do for them as a burden from an “oppressive society?”
The truth is, God’s truth is eternal. While the world may say serving at home isn’t serving, God says people will know you are a Christian based on how you show love for others. That includes your children and your husband.
Go forth and serve with grace and compassion. God extends it you daily, now it’s time to extend that same grace to your ministry at home.
If you’re thinking to yourself right now, “how do I serve with grace” then I have something for you.
Starting in a few weeks we’re launching a monthly mentorship community based on being a Prudent Biblical Homemaker. If that sounds like something you could use, sign up for the wait list below. I promise, you won’t wait long!
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Your marriage is the hardest ministry you will ever serve in. If you embrace this calling, I promise this ministry will change you.